Game On!

El Conquistador

So I was talking to a friend of mine about her dating issues. She's a super cool girl who's cute and intelligent and fun and everything a guy should want.

She's interested in a couple guys we both know, and has been trying for MONTHS to make something happen with them, i.e., get them to be interested in her, with no results. She makes sure to be where they are whenever possible, she invites them to activities, she has text conversations with these guys - all in all she's done an amazing job of positioning herself in their lives.

But here's her problem: lack of options. It's not that she's doing something wrong with these guys, they just happen to be the wrong guys!

Girls typically hate this philosophy, but it's sheer truth whether you like it or not, so you may as well accept it and dominate the game.

Dating is a numbers game. You meet a billion people, go on dates with far fewer, actually date even fewer, and eventually end up with just one person as your significant other.

If you only meet one person per year, it's going to take you FOREVER to find someone you're happy committing to.

Conversely, if you meet tons of people, you'll get the the end of the game much quicker.

THEREFORE - and listen closely, ladies - success in the dating game boils down to this: OPTIONS.

You need to generate AS MANY dating options as you possibly can at all times. The more options you have, the more likely one of them will like you who you like back, and then you can live happily ever after.

Some women feel strongly opposed to being "that girl" who's constantly flirting away with every boy she meets. But guess what. Guys LOVE that girl! Be her! We'll ask you out!

And when you're getting asked out all the time, things will work out more often.

So this needs to be your new approach to "the game" - get as many people to be interested in you as you possibly can. In fact, try to get EVERY guy/girl you meet to be interested in you. And - this is important - the game isn't about being interested in a large number of people, it's about having a large number of people who are interested in you.

I'm sure you've heard this saying before: "it's not about who you know, it's about who knows you." Same goes for dating. It's not about who you like, it's about who likes you. If every guy/girl you know is interested in you, then whoever you decide to be interested in is yours! Who doesn't want that?!

Now let me now enumerate some benefits of this approach:

1. Increased options equals quicker success (theoretically, of course).
2. Increased options lowers anxiety because if you blow it with one guy/girl, s/he's immediately forgotten and replaced by your other options. No big deal. No heartbreak.
3. Increased options gives you more confidence in general because you become that guy/girl who everyone likes!
4. Increased options makes your life easier because now you have opposite sexers coming to you all the time instead of you trying to make things happen with them.
5. Even if you're not interested in any of your options, you begin to break into their networks and meet their cute roommates, etc., which further increases your options.

I don't know how else to say it! This is how it's done! So, my dear friend, get your game on. Unleash the flirt. Accumulate options. :)

--elC