A Man's Man=A Girl's Man

Sweet, the Doc is checkin' in.

I grew up with the mind set that women wanted a man that was sensitive and kind. A man who wanted to listen to their heartache, a man who wanted to share their heartache, a man that even had the ability to feel heartache. So therefore, I did. I did with very minimal success with the female population.

What was I doing wrong? I was constantly watching chick flicks where the guys were always super sensitive, constantly doing acts of "cute" service to woo drop-dead gorgeous celebrity hotties. Whenever I put on a good listening ear or opened up about how I was feeling, I either came off gay, weird, or at best, a "close friend" that they could confide in about their real crushes.

After a while I started to notice a trend. Guys that are jerks get the perks. Guys that have gravel for emotions and don't even have the word "cute" in their vocabulary seem to be the ones that the girls flock to. I couldn't make heads or tails of this for the longest time until I had a great discussion on this behavioral conundrum with my roommates.

Girls want a man who acts like........wait for it..........a man.

Although embarrassingly obvious at first glance, it's not quite as simple as it appears (due to the complexities of woman speech where they say one thing and mean the opposite). They tell us that they do want us to be sensitive, understanding, etc. which we have already seen is not the case. This priceless gem of info was discovered while chatting with the roomies who, in turn, had a similar discussion with someone else, we'll call him Tony, who apparently is married to someone far above his status. Therefore, Tony is completely qualified on this subject. He explained that girls want an Alpha Male. A guy that will naturally take charge of the situation and lay down the law. A guy that will, instead of allowing her to cry about her problems, tell her to cut the crap and to quit being so dramatic. A guy that can protect her against weird dweebs that go to blogs for dating advice........................haha.......joking.

Basically, girls want guys to act like the male society expects them to be. Due to thousands of years of human habit, boys are expected to be the provider, the leader, and emotional rock. Therefore, when we men start displaying more "feminine-like" qualities, we're going against the manly-man ways, giving up our manly-man sex appeal.

And if you think about it, it makes sense. Let's reverse the situation. Guys like sports and eating, for example. A girl that could throw a spiral better than I can, and belches along with the boys while stuffing her face with gas station nachos and.........yeah, I'm just gonna stop there. It just wouldn't work. And those of you who are thinking that this kind of girl IS for you, need to stop reading this and go to this site here or here.

Now, I know what you're thinking ladies: "That's not true at all! I love when a guy can be sensitive." To that I say, I didn't ask you. Biased girl crap is probably one of the main reasons why we made this blog anonymous. Next I would say, I know you like when a guy shows his sensitive side. I get that. Women, on average, really do value sensitivity, kindness, and all that other crap and would LOVE for their man to naturally display these virtues. BUT, only after he has proven that he is a man's man. Hmm, let's bold and capitalize that to make it more manly. A Man's Man. Yeah, that's it.

Let's apply this into the dating scene now.

Tony explains that while on a date, one of the primary things that a man needs to establish is that he IS the man in this relationship. The theory is that, while on a date, you need to give the girl some type of command. Blatantly tell her to do something, and then just assume that's she going to do it.

Second, never apologize or say, "just kidding." These two words show how much of a softy you really are. If you make a funny disparaging comment, good job. Don't apologize. Keep on having a great time being the dominant male that you are. By doing these two things, you quickly put the girl in her place. And strangely enough, Girls LIKE being put in their place. They expect it; so guys, don't hesitate to do so.

Men, many of you are asking, "Doc, are you saying that I need to constantly be making fun of women until they develop an eating disorder while giving them commands left and right? I don't think I can do that. I have found that girls like when I cry on their shoulder, go shopping with them, and stay late into the night talking about their boy issues." To that I say, whoa, let's not jump to extremes. And wow, you need therapy. I know I did.

Obviously we need to still put on the charm while applying the above concepts.

Summary

To establish that you are a Man's Man you must:

• Give the girl a command or two and then assume she'll carry through.
• Don't use the words "just kidding" or "sorry" etc.
• Once your manliness is proven, things like sympathy, cute service, and other feminine crap will only add to your incredible charm

Pretty much that's the basic concept as far as I understand it. I think in my next blog post, I'll talk about how it's worked out for me so far. Remember, although I might sound like an expert, I am still fairly new to this technique and am still practicing to refine this skill. I'll keep you posted. I hope I don't crash and burn.

Doc